{"id":5522,"date":"2019-10-05T22:20:14","date_gmt":"2019-10-05T22:20:14","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/on-line-interactivity.com\/blog\/2019\/10\/05\/is-it-just-me-or-are-people-getting\/"},"modified":"2019-10-05T22:20:14","modified_gmt":"2019-10-05T22:20:14","slug":"is-it-just-me-or-are-people-getting","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/on-line-interactivity.com\/blog\/is-it-just-me-or-are-people-getting\/","title":{"rendered":"Is It Just Me  Or Are People Getting"},"content":{"rendered":"<div style=\"margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px;\" class=\"sharethis-inline-share-buttons\" ><\/div><p><body>&#13;<\/p>\n<div align=\"center\">&#13;<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/on-line-interactivity.com\">&#13;<br \/>\n  <img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" border=\"0\" src=\"https:\/\/on-line-interactivity.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/abbtop.jpg\" width=\"800\" height=\"120\"\/><\/a><br \/><a 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class=\"style7\">&#13;<br \/>\n                <font color=\"#FB7014\" size=\"4\" face=\"Tahoma\">Is it Just Me, or are People Getting Ruder?<\/font><\/span><\/div>\n<\/td>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n            <\/tr>\n<tr>\n<td align=\"left\" height=\"19\">\n<div align=\"justify\"><span class=\"style2\">by: &#13;<br \/>\n                <font size=\"3\" face=\"Times New Roman\" color=\"#FB7014\">Mary Eule<\/font><\/span><\/div>\n<\/td>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n            <\/tr>\n<tr>\n<div id=\"article\">\n<td align=\"left\" height=\"12\"><span class=\"style2\">Copyright 2005 Mary Eule<\/p>\n<p>I\u0092ve been wondering this for a while and have been dying to ask my business colleagues and friends. But whenever I\u0092m get ready to pop the question, I manage to convince myself that it\u0092s silly, reveals my cynical nature (or advance years!) and is probably just a figment of my jaded imagination\u0085 certainly not worthy of intelligent discussion.<\/p>\n<p>The question, however, continued to reside nervously on the tip of my tongue, eager to fly out (particularly just after leaving my apparently mute colleague a fourth voice mail message). But it wasn\u0092t until I read Keith Ferrazzi\u0092s masterful book, \u0093Never Eat Alone\u0094 that I summoned the courage to thunderously and openly inquire, \u0093Are people, particularly those in business, much ruder than they use to be?\u0094<\/p>\n<p>And\u0085 \u0093Have we become so numb to it that we actually expect &#8211; and worst yet, accept it as normal and okay?\u0094<\/p>\n<p>I think yes. I hope I\u0092m wrong.<\/p>\n<p>Let me, however, step back a bit\u0085 Why did Ferrazzi\u0092s book serve as my catalyst?<\/p>\n<p>The short answer is that it\u0092s just plain good. It is a brilliantly written book \u0096 simple without being simplistic \u0096 in the same league as Dale Carnegie\u0092s classic \u0093How to Win Friends and Influence People.\u0094 And in an age when everyone seems to be a marketing, internet or personal motivation coach it\u0092s refreshing to read something so balanced and genuinely inspired.  Most importantly, however, Ferrazzi reminds us that we\u0092re not in this alone &#8211; people make business happen!<\/p>\n<p>He reiterates what some of us already know. We\u0092re all better off \u0096 emotionally, financially, and physically \u0096 when we take the time to build thoughtful, intimate (not in the \u0093biblical\u0094 sense :&gt;) and sincere relationships with others. Ferrazzi says that while our personal styles and levels of openness should be adjusted as appropriate, making strong human connections is essential to our well being. I couldn\u0092t agree more! This is, after all, what it\u0092s all about \u0096 and long overdue advice.  Thanks, Keith!<\/p>\n<p>But then it occurred to me.  How can you develop relationships with people when they don\u0092t call, email, or show up \u0096 even when they\u0092ve promised to do so?!<\/p>\n<p>And I\u0092m not referring about those little, unintentional slip-ups that happen to all of us occasionally &#8211; like when you\u0092ve forgotten your Aunt Hilda\u0092s birthday; or waited until the last minute to send in your wedding RSVP; or failed to send a thank-you note.<\/p>\n<p>No, what I\u0092m talking about is far more baffling and egregious. I\u0092m referring to the friends who call you one day before your big dinner party and reiterate how much they\u0092re looking forward to seeing you &#8211;  and then don\u0092t show up \u0096 no explanation, no call, no nothing.<\/p>\n<p>Or how about that real estate agent who promises to get back to you with a price no later than 2 pm, and you never hear from them again?<\/p>\n<p>And what about that old friend or colleague who can\u0092t wait to have lunch with you next Thursday and then doesn\u0092t return your confirmation calls or emails?<\/p>\n<p>Then there\u0092s my favorite\u0085 you\u0092ve killed yourself to help someone get something \u0093urgent\u0094 done (usually a boss or co-worker) and even managed to save the day\u0085 You email \u0093the document\u0094 before the deadline, sure that the recipient will be relieved and grateful.  But you never find out.  No \u0093thank you\u0094. No \u0093way to go\u0094. No nothing.<\/p>\n<p>Or is it just me?  Maybe so\u0085<\/p>\n<p>I was raised in a home where we were taught to treat everyone with the same amount of respect and kindness. Period.  Behavior that didn\u0092t measure up to this standard was not tolerated. We learned that the true measure of someone\u0092s character rested in their commitment to do the right thing &#8211; even when they didn\u0092t have to.<\/p>\n<p>For example, whenever I leave a hotel room, I wipe off the counters; gather my towels together in one convenient spot; turn off the television, lights and air conditioning; return the iron to the closet; and make sure that all my scraps of paper are where they belong \u0096 in the trash can.<\/p>\n<p>Why?  Because it\u0092s just the right thing to do (and my mother would probably rise up out of her grave and kick my butt if I didn\u0092t :&gt;).  Yes, hotels employ a cleaning staff who \u0093are paid\u0094 to clean up after me, but why should they? It\u0092s my mess. I was responsible for making it, so I am responsible for cleaning it up \u0096 even if I don\u0092t have to.<\/p>\n<p>I have adopted my parents\u0092 code and although I sometimes fail, I continually strive to measure up to those standards.<\/p>\n<p>But what does this look like in the \u0093real world\u0094?  It means you\u0085  1. Return calls\u0085 even if it\u0092s only to say \u0093no\u0094<\/p>\n<p>2. Honor your commitments\u0085 if you tell someone you\u0092re going to do something, you do it.  If you absolutely cannot, you let them know beforehand.<\/p>\n<p>3. When you\u0092re asked to RSVP, you do so<\/p>\n<p>4. Say \u0093thank you\u0094 and \u0093please\u0094\u0085 to strangers, friends, family members, waiters and waitresses, taxi drivers, colleagues, children, teenagers\u0085 everyone.<\/p>\n<p>5. Call when you\u0092re going to be late<\/p>\n<p>6. Return emails (unless it\u0092s spam)<\/p>\n<p>7. Welcome people into your home\u0085 do your best to make them feel comfortable and important<\/p>\n<p>8. Clean up after yourself<\/p>\n<p>9. Value other people\u0092s privacy<\/p>\n<p>10. Honor your parents<\/p>\n<p>11. Respect elders<\/p>\n<p>12. Chew gum quietly<\/p>\n<p>13. Say \u0093excuse me\u0094 when you burp<\/p>\n<p>14. Open doors for others<\/p>\n<p>15. Allow someone with only two items to move ahead of you in the grocery line<\/p>\n<p>16. Respect other cultures, religions, ethnicities and the like.<\/p>\n<p>17. Don\u0092t push in front of someone\u0085 even if you\u0092re in a car<\/p>\n<p>18. Share your things<\/p>\n<p>19. Don\u0092t act like a pig\u0085 even if it\u0092s at an All-You-Can-Eat buffet<\/p>\n<p>20. Don\u0092t brag<\/p>\n<p>21. Never litter<\/p>\n<p>Are these rules a thing of the past?  Pass\u00e9 in today\u0092s fast-paced culture?  Old fashioned?  Silly?  Or am I just imagining things?<\/p>\n<p>But if I\u0092m not\u0085 why?  Are we overloaded, overbooked and over committed? Has it become too easy to make excuses? Have we been forced into a \u0093every-man-for-himself\u0094 mindset? Did our parents and teachers fail us?<\/p>\n<p>Or is it that we just don\u0092t care because they\u0092re not important. What do you think?<\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n About the author:<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\n &#13;<br \/>\n  Mary Eule specializes in helping small and medium-sized businesses get and keep profitable customers. Formerly a Fortune 500 marketing executive; founder of two successful small businesses and award-winning speaker, Ms. Eule is President of Strategic Marketing Advisors, LLC. and co-author of a new book, &#8220;Mandatory Marketing: Small Business Edition&#8221;.&#13;<br \/>\nShe has a BA in Journalism\/English from the University of Maryland and earned her a master\u0092s degree in marketing from Johns Hopkins University. 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