{"id":5857,"date":"2019-10-05T22:06:27","date_gmt":"2019-10-05T22:06:27","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/on-line-interactivity.com\/blog\/2019\/10\/05\/ever-wonder-what-can-blow-up-and-wreck-your-lov\/"},"modified":"2019-10-05T22:06:27","modified_gmt":"2019-10-05T22:06:27","slug":"ever-wonder-what-can-blow-up-and-wreck-your-lov","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/on-line-interactivity.com\/blog\/ever-wonder-what-can-blow-up-and-wreck-your-lov\/","title":{"rendered":"Ever Wonder What Can Blow Up And Wreck Your Lov"},"content":{"rendered":"<div style=\"margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px;\" class=\"sharethis-inline-share-buttons\" ><\/div><p><body>&#13;<\/p>\n<div align=\"center\">&#13;<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/on-line-interactivity.com\">&#13;<br \/>\n  <img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" border=\"0\" src=\"http:\/\/on-line-interactivity.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/abbtop.jpg\" width=\"800\" height=\"120\"\/><\/a><br \/><a 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This article is<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nabout a hidden powerstruggle known as rhythms. Every person<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nhas their own unique rhythm whether that is how they eat,<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nsleep, work, relax, or even think and breathe. <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\nHowever, in our society, we have been taught to assume to<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\neveryone is alike, or that there is a specific way that<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\neveryone needs to go about their day in order to strive and<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nbe successful. This can cause a powerstruggle in a<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nrelationship in two ways.<\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n1) Each partner will think that the other person has the<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nsame rhythm as them, so if they are not doing things the<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nsame way as them they are either doing things wrong or<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nintentially trying to resist them.<\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n2) If the partners are trying to copy the other person\u0092s<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nrhythm, it will be not in their highest and best interest.<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nThey will not be \u0093productive\u0094 or be in a healthy lifestyle<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nfor the individual, which leads to powerstruggles anyway.<\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\nThis article is to bring attention to some of the less well<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nknown types of rhythms in a relationship. <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nOur first is what I will call a task accomplishment rhythm.<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nIn our work, we teach individuals and couples something<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nsimilar called workstyles which are ways how people like to<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\ncarry out their work or activities such as Guideline people<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nwho need a basic guideline or structure 24 hours a day or<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nEmployee people who like to go by other peoples rules for a<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\ncertain portion of the day, then the rest of the time they<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\ngo by their own rules. <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\nFor task accomplishment rhythms, I will use Rob, my Life<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nPartner (who is also the Director\/Counsellor for the Life<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nManagement Centre\/ LMC Relationship Centre and Co-author of<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nLove by Design) and myself as an example. <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\nWhen Rob is accomplishing tasks throughout his day, he likes<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nto do a whole bunch of tasks, one after the other, nonstop<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nwithout any breaks. Then stop for the day. I on the other<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nhand, although having an Employee Workstyle, while I am<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nactually working for or with the other person, like to work<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nfor a while, take a break, work for a while, take a break<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\netc. In the beginning of our relationship, there was an<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nunconscious powerstruggle, mostly felt by me because I<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\ncouldn\u0092t keep up the same momentum as Rob, especially if we<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nhad been out shopping or in public, I would have to have<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nrest and recoup before I could charge into the next task at<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nhand. I would get really tired and uncomfortable, and Rob<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nwould feel my resistance.<\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\nThat didn\u0092t last for long though, as soon as I recognized<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nthat my rhythm was different than Rob\u0092s, I brought it to his<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nattention. I accepted that my rhythm is different than his<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nand he has incorporated my rhythm into his schedule, so I<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\ncan rest in peace, and then join him again in our tasks. The<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\ngood news is that I was just as productive as Rob, as long<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nas I kept true to myself and my rhythm.<\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\nAnother example of a rhythm is that people have different<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nspeech patterns, speed and rhythms. Rob had a couple come in<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nto see him once, were the couple was having a communication<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nproblem. <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\nThe wife talked a mile a minute; the husband talked very<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nslowly and paused a lot when talking. The wife often cut him<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\noff, between pauses, the husband often feeling offended by<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nbeing interrupted all the time and the wife always felt like<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nthey weren\u0092t getting anywhere in their communication. Would<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nyou believe the powerstruggle was there simply because they<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nweren\u0092t aware that they had different speaking rhythms? As<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nsoon as Rob pointed this out to them, and taught them how to<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nunderstand, appreciate and not be in nonresistance to their<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nrhythm their communication greatly improved. The wife,<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nespecially learned to be aware of the husband\u0092s pause, and<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nthat the pause didn\u0092t mean he was finished talking.<\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\nThere are many other types of rhythms out there that will be<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nunique to you and to you partner. Your assignment, if you<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nchoose to accept it, is to be aware of your feelings. If you<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\never feel like you are in resistance to your partner, such<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nas feeling angry, a drop of energy or the need to dig your<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nheels in, be on the \u0093look out\u0094 and \u0093feel out\u0094 for a<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\npotential rhythm that may be different. <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\nNext, bring you partner into awareness, then accept, and<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nappreciate both your partner\u0092s and your own unique rhythms.<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nWith acceptance, nonresistance and being authentic, you will<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nfind that not only will the resistance fade away, both of<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nyour fill be at you fullest, and highest and best capacity<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nin all areas of your lives.<\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nGet Instant FREE Access to SPECIAL REPORTS By Melody Chase<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nat <a href=\"http:\/\/www.FamilyAndRelationships.com\">http:\/\/www.FamilyAndRelatinships.com<\/a> today! 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