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previous relationships:     If yes: <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n1. Are there specific types of partners that you attract or are attracted <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nto? <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n2. Is there a certain type of partner towards which you feel aversion? <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n3.  Were you happy in these relationships? <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n4. In general did you leave the relationship or did the other? <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n5. What do you believe were the factors that played a role in these <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nrelationships not working out? <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n6. Did you play a role in their not working out? If so what was your <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\ncontribution? <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n7.  Do you notice any patterns in your relationship situations and <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\ninteractions? <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nIf so which? <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n8.  What lessons might you be able to learn from these previous <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nrelationships?  <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n9.  Were there also very pleasant and positive moments in those <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nrelationships? If so, which? <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\nB. Your parental prototypes: <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n1. How would you describe the your parental prototypes: <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\na. Your Mother <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nb. Your Father <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nc. The relationship between them \u0096 the ways in which they interacted and <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\ncommunicated \u0096 or did not. <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nd. Your own relationship with you mother <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\ne. Your own relationship with your father. <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n2. Were there behavioral similarities between any of your previous partners <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nand one or more of your parents. If yes, <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nA.  Which were they? <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nB. What might you need to learn by having \u00abchosen \u0096 as a soul\u00bb to have a <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nnumber of close persons with similar behaviors? <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nC. What do you want to learn or do in relationship to that? <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\nC. Is there a difference between what society and \/ or your parents want for <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nyou and what you want from a relationship?  What do you want to do about <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nthat? <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\nD. What is important for you to have in your relationship. <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\n(Have in mind that you might be able to have all of these, and maybe not. <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nYou might have to choose or sacrifice.) <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\n__1. To have a relationship at any cost. To  have a partner, children, <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nfamily? <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\n__2. To be in love with someone? <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\n__3. To be loved by someone? <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\n__4. To be able to share feelings and thoughts with someone? <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\n__5. To have a lively and interesting interaction with someone? <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\n__6.  To be socially accepted because you are married? <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\n___7. To have a relationship so as to be able to have children? <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\n___8. To have a relationship in order to feel worthy to others. <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\n___9. To have a relationship in order to feel safe and secure? <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\n___10.To have a relationship so that there will be someone at home with me \u0096 <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nespecially in the evenings. <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nOther needs that you hope to have satisfied through a relationship. <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\n____________________________________________________________ <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\n____________________________________________________________ <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\n____________________________________________________________ <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\nE. Have you noticed that you might have certain doubts, concerns or fears <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nabout creating a committed personal relationship. If so why? Consider the <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nfollowing possibilities. <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n1. We might fear intimacy because we fear: <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\na. Being abandoned <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nb. Being suppressed <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nc. Being hurt <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nd. Rejection <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\ne. That we will not be able to be ourselves <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nf. If they know us deeper, they will not will not want to be with us. <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\n2. We might feel vulnerable and afraid of being hurt if we are open and <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nloving and prefer to keep an emotional distance. <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\n3. We do not want to give the other the idea that he or she can do whatever <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nhe or she likes with us. <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\n4.  We would like them first to ask for forgiveness or at least realize <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\ntheir mistakes. <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\n5. We fear we will lose control over them by letting them be too relaxed <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nwith us. <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\n6. We want to place the blame for our dissatisfaction with ourselves or our <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nlives on someone else who is &#8220;responsible&#8221;. <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\n7. We falsely believe that love requires that we must let this person do <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nwhatever he or she wants \u0096 regardless of ethics or justice \u0096 and that this <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nwould be totally unacceptable. <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\n8. We have identified with the role of the victim and need to feel hurt and <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nabused. <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\n9. We are in the role of the interrogator and need to find others\u0092 faults. <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\n10. We are afraid of expressing love, because we fear that there will not be <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nan adequate response from others and we will feel rejected. <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\n11. We cannot believe that others could possibly love us. <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\n12. We have been seriously hurt by this person and cannot overcome this <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nbitterness. <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\nIf you have been affected by these or other obstacles what can you do to get <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nfree? <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\nF. Do you feel unhappy alone? <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\n   For a few days? <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\n   For a long time? <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nIf so, what obstructs you from being happy even when you are alone? <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n1. Are you afraid when alone? <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\n2. Do you feel less worthy when alone? <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\n3. Are you bored when alone? <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\n4. Do you not know what to do with your time? <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\n5. Do you feel that there is no meaning to life, when you are alone? <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\n5. Do you feel badly because the others are in relationships and you are <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nnot? <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\n6. What emotions do you have when you think: <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\na. That you do not have a relationship at this moment? <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nb. That you have not had a relationship for some time? <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nc. That your previous relationships have not worked out? <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nd. That some others have relationships and you do not? <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n7. What do you want or need to do in order to feel better alone until you <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nmeet the right person? <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n8. What do you believe will change in your life if you have a love partner? <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nWhat will you have that you do not have now? <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\n&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8211;article ends&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8211; <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n****************************************** <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nRobert Elias Najemy, a life coach with 30 years of experience, has trained <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nover 300 Life coaches and now does so  over the Internet. Info at: <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nhttp:\/\/www.HolisticHarmony.com\/introholisticcoach.asp <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nHe is the author of over 20 books, 600 articles and 400 lecture cassettes on <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nHuman Harmony. Download FREE 100&#8217;s of articles, find wonderful ebooks, <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nguidance, audio files and teleclasses at http:\/\/www.HolisticHarmony.com. <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nHis books The Psychology of Happiness and Remove Pain with Energy Psychology <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nare available at http:\/\/www.amazon.com <\/p>\n<p><b\/><\/p>\n<p><\/span><\/td>\n<\/div>\n<\/tr>\n<tr>\n<td class=\"article_bio\">Robert Elias Najemy, a life coach with 30 years of experience, has trained <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nover 300 Life coaches and now does so  over the Internet. Info at: <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nhttp:\/\/www.HolisticHarmony.com\/introholisticcoach.asp <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nHe is the author of over 20 books, 600 articles and 400 lecture cassettes on <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nHuman Harmony. 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