{"id":5900,"date":"2019-10-05T22:06:27","date_gmt":"2019-10-05T22:06:27","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/on-line-interactivity.com\/blog\/2019\/10\/05\/sexual-attraction-addiction-or-intimacy\/"},"modified":"2019-10-05T22:06:27","modified_gmt":"2019-10-05T22:06:27","slug":"sexual-attraction-addiction-or-intimacy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/on-line-interactivity.com\/blog\/sexual-attraction-addiction-or-intimacy\/","title":{"rendered":"Sexual Attraction   Addiction Or Intimacy"},"content":{"rendered":"<div style=\"margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px;\" class=\"sharethis-inline-share-buttons\" ><\/div><p><body>&#13;<\/p>\n<div align=\"center\">&#13;<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/on-line-interactivity.com\">&#13;<br \/>\n  <img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" border=\"0\" src=\"https:\/\/on-line-interactivity.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/abbtop.jpg\" width=\"800\" height=\"120\"\/><\/a><br \/><a href=\"http:\/\/www.website.ws\/kvmlm2\/my.dhtml?sponsor=geekzonehostingcom&amp;bannercode=gif002&amp;language=english\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/images.website.ws\/images\/english\/banners\/kvmlm2\/468x60_02.gif\" border=\"0\"\/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>&#13;<\/p>\n<table width=\"800\" border=\"0\" cellspacing=\"0\" cellpadding=\"5\">\n<tr>\n<td colspan=\"2\">&#13;<br \/>\n\t  &#13;<\/p>\n<div align=\"center\">&#13;<br \/>\n\t     <script type=\"text\/javascript\"><![CDATA[<!--\ngoogle_ad_client = \"pub-5712520513640847\";\ngoogle_ad_width = 728;\ngoogle_ad_height = 90;\ngoogle_ad_format = \"728x90_as\";\ngoogle_ad_type = \"text_image\";\ngoogle_ad_channel =\"\";\ngoogle_color_border = \"336699\";\ngoogle_color_bg = \"FFFFFF\";\ngoogle_color_link = \"0000FF\";\ngoogle_color_url = \"008000\";\ngoogle_color_text = \"000000\";\n\/\/-->]]><\/script><script type=\"text\/javascript\" src=\"http:\/\/pagead2.googlesyndication.com\/pagead\/show_ads.js\"><![CDATA[\n         ]]><\/script>   &#13;<br \/>\n\t  \u00a0<\/div>\n<\/td>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n    <\/tr>\n<tr>\n<td width=\"260\" valign=\"top\">\n<p>\u00a0&#13;<br \/>\n\t  &#13;<br \/>\n\t  &#13;\n\t  <\/p>\n<div align=\"left\"><span class=\"style23\">&#13;<\/p>\n<p align=\"left\" class=\"style23\">Article Navigation <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n        <a href=\"index.html\"><font size=\"3\">Back To &#13;<br \/>\n          Main Page <\/font> <\/a> &#13;<\/p>\n<p\/><\/span><\/div>\n<p>&#13;<\/p>\n<p align=\"left\"\/>\n<hr\/>\n<p align=\"left\"><script type=\"text\/javascript\"><![CDATA[<!--\ngoogle_ad_client = \"pub-5712520513640847\";\ngoogle_ad_width = 250;\ngoogle_ad_height = 250;\ngoogle_ad_format = \"250x250_as\";\ngoogle_ad_type = \"text\";\ngoogle_ad_channel =\"\";\ngoogle_color_border = \"FFFFFF\";\ngoogle_color_bg = \"FFFFFF\";\ngoogle_color_link = \"0000FF\";\ngoogle_color_url = \"008000\";\ngoogle_color_text = \"000000\";\n\/\/-->]]><\/script><script type=\"text\/javascript\" src=\"http:\/\/pagead2.googlesyndication.com\/pagead\/show_ads.js\"><![CDATA[\n            ]]><\/script><\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n            \u00a0<\/p>\n<p align=\"left\"><b><a href=\"index.html\"><font size=\"4\">&#13;<br \/>\n      <span style=\"background-color: #FF6600\">Click Here<\/span><\/font><\/a><\/b><font size=\"4\"><span style=\"background-color: #FF6600\"> &#13;<br \/>\n      for more articles<\/span><\/font><\/p>\n<\/td>\n<p>&#13;<\/p>\n<td width=\"514\" valign=\"top\">\n<div align=\"left\">&#13;<\/p>\n<table width=\"99%\" height=\"114\">\n<tr>\n<td height=\"45\"><span class=\"style7\"><!-- Search Google -->&#13;<br \/>\n<center>&#13;<\/p>\n<form method=\"get\" action=\"http:\/\/www.google.com\/custom\" target=\"_top\">&#13;<\/p>\n<table bgcolor=\"#ffffff\">\n<tr>\n<td nowrap=\"nowrap\" valign=\"top\" align=\"left\" height=\"32\">&#13;<br \/>\n<a href=\"http:\/\/www.google.com\/\">&#13;<br \/>\n<img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/www.google.com\/logos\/Logo_25wht.gif\" border=\"0\" alt=\"Google\" align=\"middle\" width=\"75\" height=\"32\"\/><\/a>&#13;<br \/>\n<input type=\"text\" name=\"q\" size=\"31\" maxlength=\"255\" value=\"\"\/><input type=\"submit\" name=\"sa\" value=\"Search\"\/><input type=\"hidden\" name=\"client\" value=\"pub-5712520513640847\"\/><input type=\"hidden\" name=\"forid\" value=\"1\"\/><input type=\"hidden\" name=\"ie\" value=\"ISO-8859-1\"\/><input type=\"hidden\" name=\"oe\" value=\"ISO-8859-1\"\/><input type=\"hidden\" name=\"cof\" value=\"GALT:#008000;GL:1;DIV:#336699;VLC:663399;AH:center;BGC:FFFFFF;LBGC:336699;ALC:0000FF;LC:0000FF;T:000000;GFNT:0000FF;GIMP:0000FF;FORID:1;\"\/><input type=\"hidden\" name=\"hl\" value=\"en\"\/><\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<\/table>\n<\/form>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n<\/center>&#13;<br \/>\n<!-- Search Google -->&#13;<br \/>\n<\/span><\/td>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n            <\/tr>\n<tr>\n<td align=\"left\" height=\"22\">\n<div align=\"justify\"><span class=\"style7\">&#13;<br \/>\n                <font color=\"#FB7014\" size=\"4\" face=\"Tahoma\">Sexual Attraction &#8211; Addiction or Intimacy?<\/font><\/span><\/div>\n<\/td>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n            <\/tr>\n<tr>\n<td align=\"left\" height=\"19\">\n<div align=\"justify\"><span class=\"style2\">by: &#13;<br \/>\n                <font size=\"3\" face=\"Times New Roman\" color=\"#FB7014\">Margaret Paul<\/font><\/span><\/div>\n<\/td>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n            <\/tr>\n<tr>\n<div id=\"article\">\n<td align=\"left\" height=\"12\"><span class=\"style2\"><br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nSexual Attraction &#8211; Addiction or Intimacy? <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\nMegan asked the following questions in one of our phone <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nsessions: &#8220;Over and over, when I&#8217;m really attracted to a man <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nand I sleep with him fairly early in the relationship, I <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\ndiscover that he is not good husband material. What am I <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\ndoing wrong? Am I just attracted to the wrong kind of men?&#8221; <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\nThis is a frequent question from my single women clients. <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n&#8220;Megan, many men know how to project sexual energy in a way <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nthat arouses women. These men define their worth by their <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nsexuality and by their ability to attract woman. They know <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\njust how to sexually ignite a woman &#8211; it&#8217;s an energy that <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nthey are putting out that goes right into your genitals and <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nmakes you think that something real and important is <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nhappening. But they are operating from a sexual addiction <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nrather than from caring or intimacy.&#8221; <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n&#8220;So what should I be doing when I feel that powerful sexual <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nattraction?&#8221; <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n&#8220;You need to be telling yourself that this feeling doesn&#8217;t <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nmean anything \u0096 that it&#8217;s just an energy that is being <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nprojected onto you but has nothing to do with love, <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nintimacy, caring, or marriage. Real, long-lasting <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nrelationships take time to evolve. If you feel sexual upon <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nfirst meeting someone, there is a good possibility that this <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nman just wants a sexual encounter with you rather than a <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nreal relationship with you. My suggestion to you is to not <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nhave sex early in a relationship, even if you are very <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nattracted.&#8221; <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n&#8220;Well, when do you have sex?&#8221; <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n&#8220;When you feel emotionally intimate. When you trust each <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nother and really care about each other&#8217;s wellbeing. When you <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nknow that the feelings are not just sexual, and that the <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nsexuality is coming from the emotional intimacy rather than <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nfrom a sexual addiction. Why not wait until there is a <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\ncommitment to the relationship and to learning and growing <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nwith each other? How often have you slept with a man that <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nyou were really attracted to and then had the relationship <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nnot work out?&#8221; <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n&#8220;More often than I&#8217;m willing to admit. This is what keeps <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nhappening. So are you saying that I should also go out with <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nmen that I&#8217;m not immediately attracted to?&#8221; <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n&#8220;Yes, if you like them. Often, sexual attraction grows as <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nyou really get to know a person. Many of my clients with the <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nbest relationships are people who were not immediately <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nattracted to each other. The attraction grew as they fell in <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nlove with each other. Others, who were attracted <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nimmediately, lost their attraction as they got to know the <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nperson. <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n&#8220;Many men can have sex and then just move on without any <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\ninner turmoil. Yet many women feel connected to a man when <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nthey have sex with him and then feel awful when the <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nrelationship doesn&#8217;t work out. It is unloving to yourself to <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nsleep with a man early in the relationship and then run the <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nrisk of being dumped because all he wanted was sex. <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n&#8220;Another factor is that sex without emotional intimacy is <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\noften disappointing for both people. When you have sex too <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nearly in a relationship, it might not be emotionally or <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nphysically satisfying. When sex is not an expression of <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nlove, it often feels empty, and then the guy might decide <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nthat you are not the right person for him because there were <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nno fireworks. Yet if you had waited for love to develop, it <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nmight have been wonderful. You really have nothing to lose <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nby waiting.&#8221; <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n&#8220;But,&#8221; replied Megan, &#8220;I always think that a man won&#8217;t like <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nme if I don&#8217;t have sex with him.&#8221; <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n&#8220;Well, if you doesn&#8217;t like you for not having sex with him, <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nwhat does this tell you about him?&#8221; <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n&#8220;I guess it tells me that he is not good husband material.&#8221; <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n&#8220;Right! So you have nothing to lose by not having sex right <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\naway.&#8221; <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n&#8220;Okay, I see that now. I see that what I&#8217;ve been doing is <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nnever going to lead to marriage. I&#8217;m going to put sex on the <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nback burner and pay more attention to caring and intimacy.&#8221; <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\nMegan completely changed her pattern with men and within a <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nyear she was engaged to be married. <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\nAbout The Author: <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\nMargaret Paul, Ph.D. is the best-selling author and <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nco-author of eight books, including &#8220;Do I Have To Give Up Me <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nTo Be Loved By You?&#8221; and &#8220;Healing Your Aloneness.&#8221; She is <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nthe co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding healing <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nprocess. Learn Inner Bonding now! Visit her web site for a <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nFREE Inner Bonding course: http:\/\/www.innerbonding.com or <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nemail her at mailto:margaret@innerbonding.com. 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