{"id":5904,"date":"2019-10-05T22:06:27","date_gmt":"2019-10-05T22:06:27","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/on-line-interactivity.com\/blog\/2019\/10\/05\/ten-tips-to-play-together-and-stay-together\/"},"modified":"2019-10-05T22:06:27","modified_gmt":"2019-10-05T22:06:27","slug":"ten-tips-to-play-together-and-stay-together","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/on-line-interactivity.com\/blog\/ten-tips-to-play-together-and-stay-together\/","title":{"rendered":"Ten Tips To Play Together  And Stay Together"},"content":{"rendered":"<div style=\"margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px;\" class=\"sharethis-inline-share-buttons\" ><\/div><p><body>&#13;<\/p>\n<div align=\"center\">&#13;<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/on-line-interactivity.com\">&#13;<br \/>\n  <img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" border=\"0\" src=\"https:\/\/on-line-interactivity.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/abbtop.jpg\" width=\"800\" height=\"120\"\/><\/a><br \/><a 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These can be planned or spontaneous.  When you have fun together, it creates positive memories, which act as seeds for a long, playful relationship.<\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\nCarol operates a Bed &amp; Breakfast and Country Vacation business.  Through this, we have the opportunity to meet and learn about people from far and wide. <\/p>\n<p><b>The Teepee Turn-around<\/b><\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\nLast summer John and Audrey arranged to stay with us, away from their Edmonton, Alberta home.  They were both in their seventies, and had fond memories of time spent on farms when they were children. They thought it was time to revisit a farm and create some new fun memories.<\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\nThey arrived in mid afternoon, well ahead of when we expected them.  I was repairing a fence, some distance from the yard and they did not see me as I approached.  I stopped to watch \u0093the game.\u0094  <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\nAudrey jumped out of the car and headed straight for the house.  John went the other direction to a large teepee we have in our yard.<\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n\u0093Audrey, Audrey, come here.  Look at this.\u0094  John was pointing into the teepee.<\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n\u0093We better check-in first, John.\u0094<\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n\u0093No, come over here.  It will just take a moment.\u0094<\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n\u0093OK.  Look at what?\u0094  She said begrudgingly as she peered into the teepee.<\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n\u0093Go in and I\u0092ll show you.\u0094<\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\nAudrey crouched and stepped into the teepee.  John reached over and pinched her butt.<\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n\u0093Oh John!\u0094 she said with a giggle as she stood up quickly inside.  John jumped through the doorway and chased Audrey around the inside of the teepee, both of them laughing and giggling as if they were young children.<\/p>\n<p><b>John and Audrey had been together for over 50 years<\/b> and I expect they will be together for many more years.   While they were with us, they played horseshoes, bocci, and ping-pong together.  We shared stories, joked, and laughed.  They slept in the teepee to experience something new. They had perma-grins.  <b>It was a very good thing!<\/b><\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\nI remember when we were first married, we knew that play was important too.  I played hockey two or three nights a week, and Carol played volleyball and racquetball two or three nights a week.  It was good exercise and sociability for both of us, but not with each other.  And the result was resentment, defensiveness, and discontent in our relationship.  <b>It was not a good thing!<\/b><\/p>\n<p><b>Ten Tips to play together and stay together:<\/b><\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n1.  <b>Plan a ten-minute meeting.<\/b>  You may need to mark it in your planner.  I\u0092m serious here.  Unless you schedule it, you may not do it. <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n2.  <b>Find a comfortable place<\/b> to discuss fun things, away from the phone, friends, or kids.<\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n3.  <b>Brainstorm <\/b>all of the fun things that you would like to do together.  Yes, that says \u0093together,\u0094 not me today and you tomorrow.  If you list forty ways and places to have sex \u0096 that is fun, but it is just one thing.<\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n4.  <b>Prioritize<\/b> three things that you <b>will do<\/b> in the next week.  These don\u0092t need to be majestic events, although they can be.  It could be a romantic dinner, spa day, movie night, card game, or a walk in nature holding hands.  Use your imagination and make them as wild and crazy, or as tame and relaxing as you wish.<\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n5.  <b>Schedule these fun activities<\/b> (dates and times) in your planner if necessary.  These are agreements that you both commit to uphold.<\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n6.  <b>Schedule another meeting<\/b> next week to explore and plan the next week\u0092s fun activities.<\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n7.  <b>Keep your agreements<\/b>, regardless of the other \u0093stuff\u0094 in life.  A failure to follow-through on these agreements sends a powerful underlying message to your mate about the importance of your relationship.<\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n8.  If an unforeseen, uncontrollable \u0093something\u0094 occurs that would hold you from your commitment, renegotiate another time to which you both agree.  <b>Do not cancel the activity.<\/b><\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n9.  <b>Continue this process for four weeks.<\/b>  You are creating a new habit.<\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n10.  <b>Celebrate your accomplishment<\/b> in a fun way.  The celebration keeps you motivated.  Choose one of the fun things you like to do together, but with the intention that it is a reward for your commitment to your relationship.<\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\nYeah, I know.  Some of you are thinking, \u0093This is too structured.\u0094  \u0093It will take away from the fun.\u0094  \u0093It won\u0092t leave room for spontaneity.\u0094<\/p>\n<p><b>The point is this.<\/b>  Likely, you are not doing the fun things together now.  Or if you are, you are not consciously recognizing them as such.  Am I correct?<\/p>\n<p><b>Consciously commit to these Ten Tips<\/b> and I guarantee that you will experience more fun and love in your relationship.  Spontaneous fun will occur more often.  You will approach each day with an uplifted attitude.  <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\nThere is always room for more happiness in my life.  How about you?<\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\nCopyright\u00a9 2005<\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\nDan Ohler is a relationship, change, and happiness specialist based near Edmonton, AB, Canada.  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