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class=\"style7\">&#13;<br \/>\n                <font color=\"#FB7014\" size=\"4\" face=\"Tahoma\">Don&#8217;t Give Away Your Power!<\/font><\/span><\/div>\n<\/td>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n            <\/tr>\n<tr>\n<td align=\"left\" height=\"19\">\n<div align=\"justify\"><span class=\"style2\">by: &#13;<br \/>\n                <font size=\"3\" face=\"Times New Roman\" color=\"#FB7014\">William Martin<\/font><\/span><\/div>\n<\/td>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\n            <\/tr>\n<tr>\n<div id=\"article\">\n<td align=\"left\" height=\"12\"><span class=\"style2\">Lets look at some ways we can get to know another person without giving our power away. This enables us to minimize the risk that we will get hurt in the process.<\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\nThe other day, a lady asked me an interesting question. She said, <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\n&#8216;Are you single?&#8217;. What I noticed about that is that it feels <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nlike a very different question from &#8216;Do you have girlfriend?&#8217;.<\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\nI also noticed that my respect for the person went up a notch<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\n or two &#8211; even though I did not want to get into a romantic <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nrelationship with her.<\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\nThe reason for this is that asking &#8216;Are you single?&#8217;, has a <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nrefreshing boldness about it without being pushy. Whereas the <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\n&#8220;Do you have girlfriend \/ boyfriend?&#8221;, question has a sort of <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nunspoken &#8220;you probably wouldn\u0092t want me anyway&#8221; feeling about it. <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\nAt least in can drift into that if the person is not very careful <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nhow they say it.<\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\nLike anything to do with personal power it &#8220;Ain\u0092t what you do it&#8217;s<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nthe way that you do it&#8221;. However, asking the right question is part of the way we do it.<\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\nOne way we can make dating easier on ourselves is to change the <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nquestion so that we do ask people on &#8216;dates&#8217; at all! What I mean is go for what some call &#8220;the no-date date&#8221;. This is where we just <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\ninvite the person along to something we want to do anyway. It can be anything from a favorite caf\u00e9, a place which has the best cakes \/ donuts, or place with an unusual shop, or a particularly nice park and so on.<\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\nThat way we can say something like, &#8220;I am going to a lovely park at the weekend. It has a beautiful path through the trees. Would you like to come?&#8221;. (Or, whatever is suitable based on what you know about them). Invite them to do something fun or interesting, which does not take up too much time.<\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\nWe are just inviting them along, so we spend time with them. It is not really clear to them whether it is an actual \u0091date\u0092 with <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nromantic intentions or not. We can get to know them a bit better <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nbefore we decide to go that way. <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\nIn this way we can avoid saying &#8220;Want to go out with me?&#8221;, which<br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nagain just gives our power away. If they turn down a no-date offer next time you meet them you can even say, &#8220;Hey, you really missed out. That park \/ caf\u00e9 \/ shop I told you about was great (and have something to say that reinforces this (weather was fabulous, they have the best coffee etc.)&#8221;. This turns even a &#8216;rejection&#8217; into something in your favor. <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\nWe can also invite someone we want to get to know to join in with <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nsomething we are doing with other friends. We don\u0092t have to get <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nstuck in thinking we have to invite people out one-on-one. <\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\nYou may wonder whether you will give the person the wrong <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nimpression if you are interested in them, but not make it clear <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nfrom the start by specifically asking for a date. You actually <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nprobably stand a better chance to get to know each other when <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\njust relaxing without any pressure. However, your &#8216;interest&#8217; will <br \/>&#13;<br \/>\nprobably be in who you think they are, rather than who they really are. Give yourself a chance to get to know them for real before deciding anything.<\/p>\n<p>&#13;<br \/>\nBesides better to find out early whether this is a person with whom you can just relax and have fun with. 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